David Hume om kärlek och vänskap

David Hume är en av historiens största tänkare. Jag läste just ett tankeväckande resonemang av honom där han påpekar att kärlek som grund för en relation är bräcklig; däremot är vänskap, som är en lugn och förnuftig grund för umgänge, en mer stabil utgångspunkt:

For instance, love is a restless and impatient passion, full of caprices and variations: arising in a moment from a feature, from an air, from nothing, and suddenly extinguishing after the same manner. … But friendship is a calm and sedate affection, conducted by reason and cemented by habit; springing from long acquaintance and mutual obligations; without jealousies or fears, and without those feverish fits of heat and cold, which cause such an agreeable torment in the amorous passion. So sober an affection, therefore, as friendship, rather thrives under constraint, and never rises to such a height, as when any strong interest or necessity binds two persons together, and gives them some common object of pursuit. … The happiest marriages, to be sure, are found where love, by long acquaintance, is consolidated into friendship. Whoever dreams of raptures and extasies beyond the honey-month, is a fool.”